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A “Blurred Lines” Epiphany

Robin Thicke (feat. T.I. & Pharrell Williams) - Blurred Lines

First, let me start off by saying that what I’m about to say in no way dismisses the valid points made about gender equality or consent. There’s no question about it, consent is sexy.

Anyone who knows this song probably knows about the controversy over the lyrics and what the song does or does not promote. I’m all for social debate and constructive discussion about things, which is why I’m hoping what I’m about to argue is welcomed as a part of that discussion. Ready?

Okay. What if the blurred lines that “Blurred Lines” is about is not about consent? What if the song is really about the blurred lines of femininity? What if the song is really commenting on the lines society has drawn for women and their appropriate roles? When I read or listen to these lyrics, while consent definitely comes into play, the key theme for me is the archetypal distinction between the ‘Madonna’ and the ‘Whore’.

I think the consent argument stems from the assumption that the subject of the song (arguably ‘the hottest bitch in this place’) doesn’t want it. This song is highly misogynistic if she really doesn’t want it and there is no consent.

But what if she does really want it? The blurred lines come from the idea that a “good girl” doesn’t want sex – she shouldn’t want sex. A good girl wants to settle down and be domestic (see also: Carrie Underwood – Good Girl). Mr. Thicke then immediately calls her an animal and says “it’s in your nature,” which is problematic on several levels. First, likening women to animals and telling them what their “nature” is or is not is bad. Stop. There is a ton of literature on these topics and I highly recommend reading up on that if you haven’t already.

Some other key lyrics that I think convey positive meanings are “this man is not your maker” and “you’re far from plastic.” You are more than what society tells you to be. You are more than just the conventional “good girl.” You have dreams. You have desires. Maybe you lust after a life that doesn’t involve you being a domestic diva. If you do want that, that’s okay, as long as you choose it for yourself.

This song speaks to a great internal conflict: the subject of the song must choose between who society tells her she should be and the way she wants to be. She must act like a good girl, but on the inside, she wants to get nasty. This girl quite possibly wants to get a little kinky in the bedroom. She’s been missing something key in her sexual life let domestication just couldn’t fulfill. She may not know what it is because her last guy was too square for her and Mr. Thicke wants to be the guy to help her find her true sexual passion.

Some of the lyrics suggest that he actually is asking for consent:

“One thing I ask of you, let me be the one you back that ass into” AND

“So I just watch and wait for you to salute.”

This doesn’t sound like a guy who doesn’t care about consent. He’s asking and waiting.

These blurred lines don’t seem to be those drawn between consent and non-consent. These lines are the ones drawn by society, telling women how they should behave. Women then internalize this and are put into a position of feeling like they need to act like good girls, even if they want to step outside of that narrowly defined box.

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To all the guys who felt their “being nice” efforts were wasted on my friendship…

‎”But most of all, stop thinking that what people so loathingly refer to as the “friendzone” is some sort of purgatory women put “nice guys” into. My friendship is not a crappy consolation prize that you’re left with if I deny you a sexual relationship– and my body is not your reward for good behavior.”

Taylor Callobre in ‘The “Good Guy” Myth’



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True story.  Today is the beginning of a new, long awaited chapter in my life.  And even though I’ve been counting down the days until it began, there’s a strange feeling accompanying me.  It’s like a weird sense of finality.  It’s like even though I wanted it to end, it was still a part of my life, and now it’s not.  Apparently, even the sudden absence of a negative aspect of your life leaves a void.I’m brought back to the start, when this particular chapter was filled with so much promise and potential.  And how it all ended so quickly.  Maybe that’s all it was ever meant to be, and no matter what, I’ve learned something about myself.  And that’s, well…that’s something.

True story.  

Today is the beginning of a new, long awaited chapter in my life.  And even though I’ve been counting down the days until it began, there’s a strange feeling accompanying me.  

It’s like a weird sense of finality.  It’s like even though I wanted it to end, it was still a part of my life, and now it’s not.  Apparently, even the sudden absence of a negative aspect of your life leaves a void.

I’m brought back to the start, when this particular chapter was filled with so much promise and potential.  And how it all ended so quickly.  Maybe that’s all it was ever meant to be, and no matter what, I’ve learned something about myself.  And that’s, well…that’s something.

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Starry Night by Vincent VanGogh (above) and reimagined by Alex Ruiz (below)

Oh my god…

 I can’t even put into words how beautiful this is

I’m in awe.

And he looked up into the sky, unable to put into words the beauty that was before him.

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Love these little guys!

Love these little guys!

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Please and thank you.

Please and thank you.

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Mahahahaha!  

Mahahahaha!  

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ireadsomething:

If you want to change the game, you have to play the game.


Just when I was trying to avoid going into politics…

ireadsomething:

If you want to change the game, you have to play the game.

Just when I was trying to avoid going into politics…

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